I seemed to be able to cope with Mum's problems until last week when she was finally diagnosed with Alzheimer's (after years of being told by the doctors that it was just old age).
Before then we all knew there was something wrong. She wasn't eating, her memory was terrible, several times she was conned out of money and she wasn't taking her medicines correctly.
We put various steps in place over the last few years, such as power of attorney for her finances, 2 visits a day from social services to ensure she is fed and extra visits to ensure she and her house are clean.
Despite all of this once the consultant said it was Alzheimer's my world just collapsed. I feel like I have nowhere to turn.
The shock hit me so hard that I had to be signed off work.
There is no other family to help, my sister died 6 weeks ago (although she never actually helped anyway), but her death made it clear that I am on my own when it comes to Mum's care.
My husband and kids do what they can, but I feel I should be doing more for her but I haven't got the strength. I've even started to feel resentful towards Mum, but I know it's her illness - so then I start to be racked with guilt.
Every time she calls I dread answering the phone as I know it will be another crisis and I feel that every time that something goes wrong that it is my fault. For example when I took her to the dentist she told me I should make sure Mum brushes her teeth, I can't be there to do that.
I can't cope with helping her, and I can't cope with the guilt of not helping. I never knew I could feel so low.
Before then we all knew there was something wrong. She wasn't eating, her memory was terrible, several times she was conned out of money and she wasn't taking her medicines correctly.
We put various steps in place over the last few years, such as power of attorney for her finances, 2 visits a day from social services to ensure she is fed and extra visits to ensure she and her house are clean.
Despite all of this once the consultant said it was Alzheimer's my world just collapsed. I feel like I have nowhere to turn.
The shock hit me so hard that I had to be signed off work.
There is no other family to help, my sister died 6 weeks ago (although she never actually helped anyway), but her death made it clear that I am on my own when it comes to Mum's care.
My husband and kids do what they can, but I feel I should be doing more for her but I haven't got the strength. I've even started to feel resentful towards Mum, but I know it's her illness - so then I start to be racked with guilt.
Every time she calls I dread answering the phone as I know it will be another crisis and I feel that every time that something goes wrong that it is my fault. For example when I took her to the dentist she told me I should make sure Mum brushes her teeth, I can't be there to do that.
I can't cope with helping her, and I can't cope with the guilt of not helping. I never knew I could feel so low.