Hi all
Just sitting here reading your many posts and thought I would drop a line, hope all your Xmas's went better than we all expected. We are sooo glad ours is over, first one with MIL in her new home, excellent as it is, the thoughts and guilt are still unbearable, today went in to see her - surprise surprise a good day!!! Xmas she wouldn't or couldn't even open her eyes and spent lengthy times just screaming etc - horrendous, felt so so sad for her and so so helpless. No pressy opening could be attempted, we spent the whole time feeling wretched and rotten for her, I have been married 38 years every single xmas and birthday and celebration had MIL and FIL and SIL spending the times with us, now its just me and hubby and our only daugher all missing the family thats now lost, or thats how it feels with MIL the last link and now in a home, just thank our lucky stars that we found such an excellent nursing home for her after our horrendous panic in finding and sorting things out after all happening so quickly and MIL going downhill so very fast, can't believe 3mths ago she seemed to be coping with us caring for her, and then BAM everything hit and hard. For those searching for a good nursing home they are out there, just keep looking. Still lots to be sorted out and we are just too tired after the last 2yrs to go forward just now, losing Father in Law June 07 Sister in Law few days before Xmas 07 both sad unhappy shock passings, and now Mother in Law getting so desperately poorly in November roll on 2009.
Can someone please tell me about continous care benefit and who qualifies and how to go about it, its all such an unknown landmine trying to fatham our way round everything needing to be done. This forum is a complete sanity saver, even tho the posts before xmas had me crying and unable to even post until now. Hope everyone did better than we managed, can't believe what a strong group of people you all are, and what great help and support you all give to each other, I have nothing but respect for each and every one of you.
Sooe
Just sitting here reading your many posts and thought I would drop a line, hope all your Xmas's went better than we all expected. We are sooo glad ours is over, first one with MIL in her new home, excellent as it is, the thoughts and guilt are still unbearable, today went in to see her - surprise surprise a good day!!! Xmas she wouldn't or couldn't even open her eyes and spent lengthy times just screaming etc - horrendous, felt so so sad for her and so so helpless. No pressy opening could be attempted, we spent the whole time feeling wretched and rotten for her, I have been married 38 years every single xmas and birthday and celebration had MIL and FIL and SIL spending the times with us, now its just me and hubby and our only daugher all missing the family thats now lost, or thats how it feels with MIL the last link and now in a home, just thank our lucky stars that we found such an excellent nursing home for her after our horrendous panic in finding and sorting things out after all happening so quickly and MIL going downhill so very fast, can't believe 3mths ago she seemed to be coping with us caring for her, and then BAM everything hit and hard. For those searching for a good nursing home they are out there, just keep looking. Still lots to be sorted out and we are just too tired after the last 2yrs to go forward just now, losing Father in Law June 07 Sister in Law few days before Xmas 07 both sad unhappy shock passings, and now Mother in Law getting so desperately poorly in November roll on 2009.
Can someone please tell me about continous care benefit and who qualifies and how to go about it, its all such an unknown landmine trying to fatham our way round everything needing to be done. This forum is a complete sanity saver, even tho the posts before xmas had me crying and unable to even post until now. Hope everyone did better than we managed, can't believe what a strong group of people you all are, and what great help and support you all give to each other, I have nothing but respect for each and every one of you.
Sooe