Hi,
Yes, my first posting. Hope it doesn't show too much.
I am the only child of 80 year old parents who both have mounting problems with daily living at home. They are both very forgetful and confuse easily. I have arranged Mental Health Unit screening and CT scans etc for them both. No results as yet but suspect that one has AD(mum) and the other Vascular dementia(dad).
Dad is easier to deal with as he just lets me get on with whatever I think best and falls asleep in his chair.
Mum is rejecting any outside help. She gets very agitated when I clean and take the washing away. I am pretty sure she has stopped going out at all although she will shop with me, when she clings to my arm as if frightened by the experience ( of the trip, not of me! ). She claims to cope but things just don't get done. She thinks she cares for my dad but beyond simple meal preparation little is done. Finding him in soiled clothes or the rubbish bin overflowing with sweet and crisp packets bears out my fears.
They do however have a morning visit each day from a District Nurse who makes sure that medication is taken. No specific dementia or AD drugs are used - need the Mental Health test results back first.
Do I get a Social Services person to come and check their care needs and put a package in place ? How can they go through the process when she is so against it ? Each time I mention that I think some help would be good she is very defensive. She claims to know that she is doing fine and will call for help when required. I think it is now beyond that stage.
My dad on his own wouldn't be a problem. Would it be good to get Social Services to just provide some care for him as a first step ? I suspect mum would be just as against this.
Suggestions gratefully received. Denting mum's pride short term may be the best bet in the long term. They both would prefer to stay at home as long as possible.
xxxx
B.
Yes, my first posting. Hope it doesn't show too much.
I am the only child of 80 year old parents who both have mounting problems with daily living at home. They are both very forgetful and confuse easily. I have arranged Mental Health Unit screening and CT scans etc for them both. No results as yet but suspect that one has AD(mum) and the other Vascular dementia(dad).
Dad is easier to deal with as he just lets me get on with whatever I think best and falls asleep in his chair.
Mum is rejecting any outside help. She gets very agitated when I clean and take the washing away. I am pretty sure she has stopped going out at all although she will shop with me, when she clings to my arm as if frightened by the experience ( of the trip, not of me! ). She claims to cope but things just don't get done. She thinks she cares for my dad but beyond simple meal preparation little is done. Finding him in soiled clothes or the rubbish bin overflowing with sweet and crisp packets bears out my fears.
They do however have a morning visit each day from a District Nurse who makes sure that medication is taken. No specific dementia or AD drugs are used - need the Mental Health test results back first.
Do I get a Social Services person to come and check their care needs and put a package in place ? How can they go through the process when she is so against it ? Each time I mention that I think some help would be good she is very defensive. She claims to know that she is doing fine and will call for help when required. I think it is now beyond that stage.
My dad on his own wouldn't be a problem. Would it be good to get Social Services to just provide some care for him as a first step ? I suspect mum would be just as against this.
Suggestions gratefully received. Denting mum's pride short term may be the best bet in the long term. They both would prefer to stay at home as long as possible.
xxxx
B.