Thanks you for your replies
@Bikerbeth @Woohoo @canary @deepetshopboy @DesperateofDevon xxxxx
I do think mums worrying has been coming back more through this week but as she is still a bit calmer than before it is slightly easier to cope with. She has been quite calm today, even the supermarket trip which is usually a trying time went a bit smoother today.
She had a bit of upset tummy this afternoon (she gets them fairly often, ongoing bowel problem) which she panics about and always wants to go home and take loads of immodium which then bungs her up for a few days. We suggested she wait half an hour in case needed to go on way home and it might go off so she could stay then anyway. She agreed and only took one immodium just in case and luckily it did go off and she soon relaxed and stayed the rest of the afternoon and didn't go home until after tea about 7pm. She called me friends name a couple of times today but quickly went back to realising I'm Andie.
She did have a few worries around where she lived during the afternoon and when we were taking her home as she couldn't remember where she lived and was mixing up her addresses. We told her no need to worry we knew where it was and she'd recognise it when she got there and although she went back to it a few times she was a lot calmer about it than previously.
When we got to mums and were putting her shopping away she lost her house keys and was a bit worked up trying to find them, so hubby and I kept saying don't worry we'll find them they must be in the house and after a few minutes I found them in her knitting bag she had brought in with her. She also got a bit mixed up about a couple of other things but she didn't get aggressive about any of it and was easier and quicker to calm.
We stayed for about half an hour before we came home and she seemed ok when we left and also when I rang to say I was home and she hasn't rung in the couple of hours since so I'm hoping she will have an okay night.
I do hope that the worrying doesn't get much worse and she feels calmer, I hate to see her upset and confused. I know with dementia that is inevitable but I love mum to bits and we all want to spare our loved ones hurt and upset don't we.
I'm going to give the appointment card idea a try, thanks for the encouragement, if mum keeps asking next time we have appointment at least I can show her and even give her a card which may at least stop the do we need to go today and the will it be open now questions, even if she keeps on checking time etc, which I'm sure she will, it might just help a little to show her a card. I think sometimes she worries we're just turning up uninvited and other times she thinks if we've not got a card its not official and we can just go when we like so could go later.
Thanks for the link
@imthedaughter I'm ordering them tonight
@deepetshopboy we got careline panic button and door sensor a bit before christmas via council, mum won't wear her panic button and often asks what the receiver box is and says she doesn't want it but so far she hasn't insisted we send it back. The door sensors will alert control room if go off overnight but not during day but I feel its worth having them just in case but worry about her going out in day when I'm not there too.
Sw has said she will sort a day at day centre and refer mum for a volunteer befriender visit and contact care agency for carer visits but they may all take a while.
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