Mum moved into care home in October after 5 weeks in hospital and huge deterioration in her dementia. The first few weeks were hard for us all and around Christmas we felt we had started to see a more settled mum on our regular visits. In the past few weeks, there are lots of new residents who are still trying to settle and consequently keep saying they are going home or want to go home. Mum seems to mirror this behaviour and it feels just like the first few weeks of her moving in all over again. My dad visits her every morning, then my brother sister and I also visit every other day too, so she sees at least 2 visitors everyday. She prefers to be in the main lounge and spends minimal time in her room which is lovely. I had a really stressful visit yesterday and had to take her for a dental appointment too. She was saying really unkind things, that her family had dumped her there and my dad had another woman! He’s 85 and looks on his last legs, devoted to her so I do find this really hard. I shouted at her yesterday and feel terrible because I know it’s the dementia, just typing this makes me cry. Reading regular posts here I’ve given up hope she will ever truly ‘settle’ there but how do we cope with this recurring behaviour every time a new person moves in.