Hi. I'm asking for advice for my grandmother.
She is 92 and has always been very independent. Her diagnosis was roughly about three to four years ago. Shes still living alone and has no longer got her cooker and recently blew up her microwave. The first thing she does in the morning is spend hours ringing round people in her phone book, mainly me and my mum. We get 40 calls a day some days.
All the same messages.
Confused and not wanting to be alone.
I work and have small children so can't be with her much. My mother is her main carer but she suffers with fibromyalgia and depression. She finds it extremely difficult being harassed on the phone and dealing with her mother every day.
So far my nan is refusing help from social services, and because shes conning them they say she doesn't need more help until she agrees to it.
I find this frustrating.
My nan is faecaly incontinent and gets excrement on the floor, she cant make or drink a cup of tea without being reminded numerous times. she stopped washing about 10 months ago, and lies about it. She will not wash or let us help her do it.
My mother is at her wits end.
I also find it very difficult when my nana is with me as it sets my anxiety off.
I feel bad about that.
Nan has also developed a constant noise she does, like a mmmm mmm kind of noise.
Is there a way we can make social services bring in a carer for nan in the morning and even at night. I'm not sure where we need to be looking for help with her care.
Any advice gratefully received
Also, should she still be living alone ?
She is 92 and has always been very independent. Her diagnosis was roughly about three to four years ago. Shes still living alone and has no longer got her cooker and recently blew up her microwave. The first thing she does in the morning is spend hours ringing round people in her phone book, mainly me and my mum. We get 40 calls a day some days.
All the same messages.
Confused and not wanting to be alone.
I work and have small children so can't be with her much. My mother is her main carer but she suffers with fibromyalgia and depression. She finds it extremely difficult being harassed on the phone and dealing with her mother every day.
So far my nan is refusing help from social services, and because shes conning them they say she doesn't need more help until she agrees to it.
I find this frustrating.
My nan is faecaly incontinent and gets excrement on the floor, she cant make or drink a cup of tea without being reminded numerous times. she stopped washing about 10 months ago, and lies about it. She will not wash or let us help her do it.
My mother is at her wits end.
I also find it very difficult when my nana is with me as it sets my anxiety off.
I feel bad about that.
Nan has also developed a constant noise she does, like a mmmm mmm kind of noise.
Is there a way we can make social services bring in a carer for nan in the morning and even at night. I'm not sure where we need to be looking for help with her care.
Any advice gratefully received
Also, should she still be living alone ?