Thank you all for your wise words and lovely comments. It's amazing, we don't know each other from Adam as they say but the support on here is truly wonderful and I really appreciate it as I know that we all are, will be or have been in the same boat and it is not a great place to be but just coming on here is very uplifting.
Update on dad. Well he has had no more pain and hardly any morphine, I am beginning to wonder if it was some kind of colic or something as my brother said that dad was in extreme pain while we were away but since we have come home he has had very little and that goes when he has had a burp or two so I don't know what to think. He kept me up all Friday night chatting because he didn't know where he was. We had some very odd conversations and I got in bed at 7 am yesterday morning. Last night we all slept like logs and this morning he was fine.
I have cleared his big bedroom (where I sleep) ready for the hospital bed that is coming tomorrow so we will be able to watch TV and look out of the window. I will go and sleep in dads bed but if needed we can sleep in the same room. It will be a busy day tomorrow sorting out suitable bedding for all the beds. I am at my own home tonight for a break and I have not even unpacked my bag yet from being away.
He is eating nothing, a few sips of soup, a milk shake, a mouthful of his scrambled egg but he looks shocking so it is all downhill from here and I realise that. At least he is hydrated as he loves his fizzy drink (thinks it is a nice beer) He is still as happy as Larry and has an answer for everything so we do laugh a lot.
@Sam Luvit we are still fighting over the toilet, still refusing to use the commode or even pee in the bottle that we have been given because that is very difficult apparently so he is holding it in instead but he has got to go sometime, anyway my brother can deal with until tomorrow and perhaps he will have better luck.
I can see this going on for a while but I have a night off so I will make the most of it.