I think I have had a small success that I wanted to share.
My wife became incontinent about 9 months ago, and double incontinent soon after, so I started buying incontinence pants. Tena seem the best but cost around £1 each so have tried out various others.
I heard about the existence of continence teams (Bowel and Bladder clinic in our case) in the NHS so got a referral.They provided pads, not pants. We tried them but they were not great. Far more leaks, totally useless for bowel incontinence, so I drifted back to buying my own (but that costs a lots).
Phoned up the clinic to cancel the pads order, but by chance I said "You don't do pants, do you" - and the answer I got was "Only in exceptional circumstances". So a call with the nurse was arranged, and we had a discussion about it. She really did not want to provide pants - they can leave marks and dig in (really? That's an issue compared with everything else we suffer?) and be a trip hazard for people when pulling up (pads in mesh pants are worse).
In a moment of desperation I told her about a bowel movement that happened the previous week while my wife was wearing pads - (I decided to give them one more go) - the mess on the clothes, in the room, the hours to clean up etc. That seemed to do the trick, and the trial delivery of 3 pairs of Tena pants arrived today! (Only Normal absorbency, not Super or Plus, which is what I told them I used but it's a start!)
My wife became incontinent about 9 months ago, and double incontinent soon after, so I started buying incontinence pants. Tena seem the best but cost around £1 each so have tried out various others.
I heard about the existence of continence teams (Bowel and Bladder clinic in our case) in the NHS so got a referral.They provided pads, not pants. We tried them but they were not great. Far more leaks, totally useless for bowel incontinence, so I drifted back to buying my own (but that costs a lots).
Phoned up the clinic to cancel the pads order, but by chance I said "You don't do pants, do you" - and the answer I got was "Only in exceptional circumstances". So a call with the nurse was arranged, and we had a discussion about it. She really did not want to provide pants - they can leave marks and dig in (really? That's an issue compared with everything else we suffer?) and be a trip hazard for people when pulling up (pads in mesh pants are worse).
In a moment of desperation I told her about a bowel movement that happened the previous week while my wife was wearing pads - (I decided to give them one more go) - the mess on the clothes, in the room, the hours to clean up etc. That seemed to do the trick, and the trial delivery of 3 pairs of Tena pants arrived today! (Only Normal absorbency, not Super or Plus, which is what I told them I used but it's a start!)