Hello
I am currently the sole carer for my mother who has moderately advanced Alzheimer's (ACE-R 53).
I want to talk to her about care in the future whilst she still has some capacity to understand this but that means touching on how the progress of the disease will affect her in the coming years, and that is simply not something that she wants to know. Her attitude is 'I'll just take every day as it comes'.
So as a carer I am in the difficult position that I am going to need to start to introduce external care very soon as Mum's not showering any more, just washing in the sink as she's afraid of the shower, and this will obviously ramp up over time.
Mum's attitude to her illness and her wilfulness (which has always been part of her personality) make talking about the future very difficult. But I don't want to say, 'right Mum, as from next week, someone will be coming to help you wash'.
I guess as Mum's condition gets worse, this won't be as much of an issue. But at the moment I have a real dilemma. I'd appreciate any advice from anybody who has faced something similar.
Many thanks
Tim
I am currently the sole carer for my mother who has moderately advanced Alzheimer's (ACE-R 53).
I want to talk to her about care in the future whilst she still has some capacity to understand this but that means touching on how the progress of the disease will affect her in the coming years, and that is simply not something that she wants to know. Her attitude is 'I'll just take every day as it comes'.
So as a carer I am in the difficult position that I am going to need to start to introduce external care very soon as Mum's not showering any more, just washing in the sink as she's afraid of the shower, and this will obviously ramp up over time.
Mum's attitude to her illness and her wilfulness (which has always been part of her personality) make talking about the future very difficult. But I don't want to say, 'right Mum, as from next week, someone will be coming to help you wash'.
I guess as Mum's condition gets worse, this won't be as much of an issue. But at the moment I have a real dilemma. I'd appreciate any advice from anybody who has faced something similar.
Many thanks
Tim