Hi, my Mum is in middle stage of dementia and recently has become very aggressive towards my Dad. She suffers from the sundowning effect and does not recognise Dad from late afternoon through the evening believing he is her cousin. Dad however, does not help the situation as he argues back with her insisiting that he is her husband. We have excellent carers who come in three times a day and who give fantastic support to both of them. However, we are now getting to the point where she is shouting and screaming and swearing at Dad and he is doing the same back. She has called the police on two occassions now to report a stranger in the house which is my dad. Last night she barricaded the door and the carers couldn't get in.
Social services have been round but are reluctant to offer respite as my dad keeps refusing this and they say that they have to respect his wishes. He complains to the carers that he cannot carry on and then refuses any help! We have tried to organise days out for mum with volunteers but he won't let her do that either!
Anyway, just wanted to have a rant, and any advice would be welcome!
Social services have been round but are reluctant to offer respite as my dad keeps refusing this and they say that they have to respect his wishes. He complains to the carers that he cannot carry on and then refuses any help! We have tried to organise days out for mum with volunteers but he won't let her do that either!
Anyway, just wanted to have a rant, and any advice would be welcome!