I am in a quandry about what to do for Christmas. My husband of 44 yrs has been in a care home for 4 months now. He has found it very difficult to settle and still does not want to be there and thinks i have come to rescue him every time i visit. Most people i speak to say it would upset him too much especially if he remembered it was his home and it would be difficult for him to settle again. I wondered if others had tried this and did it work or was it a disaster? Whatever i do i know i will feel guilty.