My elderly Mum - aged 88, very frail with numerous medical complaints and recently diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment (MCI) - lives alone in a bungalow she owns outright, about an hours' drive away from me. As her only child I'm her next of kin, with her only other known living relatives being my married daughter who lives in London and doesn't drive and a male cousin living in Yorkshire whose own wife needs full-time care at home. Mum was in hospital a couple of weeks ago with a bad chest infection which seems to have affected her quite badly as she was diagnosed with MCI and is certainly a lot more confused since she came home from hospital.
She has the district nurse come in every morning seven days a week to give insulin injections into her tummy (she's diabetic) and employs a cleaner for one hour a week on Saturdays, but has no other regular visitors. She's trying to pressure me into selling my flat (or renting it out) and going to live with her as her full-time carer & companion, and won't accept my reasons for not wanting to do this. I have a menagerie of pets which Mum thinks I should just leave behind or get rid of. Mum doesn't have the internet at home and refuses to have it installed which would make it difficult to organise her affairs as she also wants me to do.
If I were to go live with Mum as her carer, what benefits would I be entitled to claim as her full-time carer, and if Mum were to die in the next couple of years could I be forced to move out of her bungalow and thus be made homeless, if I'd sold my flat in the meantime? I'm 64, divorced and took early retirement from the civil service nine years ago after a stroke and a heart attack; I had a second heart attack two years ago plus I was in hospital six months ago with what may have been a mild stroke.
She has the district nurse come in every morning seven days a week to give insulin injections into her tummy (she's diabetic) and employs a cleaner for one hour a week on Saturdays, but has no other regular visitors. She's trying to pressure me into selling my flat (or renting it out) and going to live with her as her full-time carer & companion, and won't accept my reasons for not wanting to do this. I have a menagerie of pets which Mum thinks I should just leave behind or get rid of. Mum doesn't have the internet at home and refuses to have it installed which would make it difficult to organise her affairs as she also wants me to do.
If I were to go live with Mum as her carer, what benefits would I be entitled to claim as her full-time carer, and if Mum were to die in the next couple of years could I be forced to move out of her bungalow and thus be made homeless, if I'd sold my flat in the meantime? I'm 64, divorced and took early retirement from the civil service nine years ago after a stroke and a heart attack; I had a second heart attack two years ago plus I was in hospital six months ago with what may have been a mild stroke.