Hi all
Just in need of some advice here please. My mum is 84 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a year ago, although she was showing signs for a good year before that. She has a carer 3 times a day as she stays living at home. until recently she had to pay full cost, but now as she is under the threshold the council pay a proportion of it for her. My first question is, am I right in thinking that if she needs to go into a home that she would have to fund it herself, unless an assessment deems her unsafe at home? Secondly at what stage do you decide that a home is the best option? She is still fairly mobile indoors but getting more unsteady and now relies on a crutch, she is not able to prepare herself food or go shopping ( her carer does that for her),and doesn't make the connection between being hungry and getting herself something. She is now reluctant to keep attending her day centre, which she usually enjoys. I just see how frail and lonely she sometimes is now and wonder if being in a home, where she will be cared for and have companionship, would be better for her as she enters the middle stages. I do not live locally, work full time and have a husband with cancer at the moment. Guilt of breaking a promise keeps me from thinking about it, but I know that I have to put that aside and do what's best for her. She took a lot of equity against her house in the past and I worry about how many years she could fund. Sorry for such a rambling post - but my head really is in a spin
Just in need of some advice here please. My mum is 84 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a year ago, although she was showing signs for a good year before that. She has a carer 3 times a day as she stays living at home. until recently she had to pay full cost, but now as she is under the threshold the council pay a proportion of it for her. My first question is, am I right in thinking that if she needs to go into a home that she would have to fund it herself, unless an assessment deems her unsafe at home? Secondly at what stage do you decide that a home is the best option? She is still fairly mobile indoors but getting more unsteady and now relies on a crutch, she is not able to prepare herself food or go shopping ( her carer does that for her),and doesn't make the connection between being hungry and getting herself something. She is now reluctant to keep attending her day centre, which she usually enjoys. I just see how frail and lonely she sometimes is now and wonder if being in a home, where she will be cared for and have companionship, would be better for her as she enters the middle stages. I do not live locally, work full time and have a husband with cancer at the moment. Guilt of breaking a promise keeps me from thinking about it, but I know that I have to put that aside and do what's best for her. She took a lot of equity against her house in the past and I worry about how many years she could fund. Sorry for such a rambling post - but my head really is in a spin