Hi, I’m new to the forum and just been searching on the internet as really struggling emotionally at moment to deal with things. We are certain my mum has dementia - she is very confused sometimes thinks she has an extra daughter, mixes everyone up and always losing things that we find in random places. She hasn’t been right for a few years but these last few months have been particularly bad with her needing help to shower and forgetting how to use simple household things like the oven or dishwasher, she refuses to accept there is a problem and has refused to go to the memory clinic so we’re totally in the dark. My dad had at last started to acknowledge that she may have early dementia but I think this is beyond early stages now as she is struggling with so many tasks. The memory clinic say they can’t do anything if we can’t get her to agree to go and some people tel me that even if she went nothing would happen we wouldn’t get any support just a diagnosis which mum is terrified of. My mum is currently in hospital following a fall and is now unable to get out of bed and no-one knows why she can’t get up. physio is coming to see her. The doctors in hospital picked up straight away how confused she is even though she is adamant she is not and I wonder whether an assessment will be done on her when she is in hospital, she floats between knowing she is in hospital to thinking she is in a hotel. My dad is struggling at home on his own as he as bad mobility problems and when I went round last night after hospital visiting all he’d eaten all day was crisps. Both my parents are stubborn and refuse outside help they expect me and my sister to do everything and never show any appreciation that we are exhausted. I feel like I cant carry on like this - I have 3 children at home the youngest who is just 7 and a hard job where I work long shifts. I feel I am at the limits of what I can cope with and I just don’t know where to turn.