I have only signed up this morning,and thought it might help to empty my head a little to people who might understand the pain I am going through.
My mother is currentley being assessed for Alzheimers and was being cared for by my Father with family support.Sadly he passed away suddenly 2 weeks ago which has really changed our circumstances and the safety and security of our mother.
My Fathers death has not really been recognised by Mum, who was shouting at the funeral Director when we were trying to make the arrangements because she did not want to have all this fuss and pay all the money because she did not know who she was burying. This along with her not knowing who we, her 4 children are with us continually being accused of stealing and hiding things was almost to much to bare. We interned my fathers ashes yesterday which was very painful, it broke my heart to realise that I have actually lost both my parents.It was the last straw for my emotions when my Mum told me that she did not want me at the service because I had nothing to do with her.
Just to add to the pain, Dad never left a will so we have all the finacial pressure of trying to deal with that. Also because Mum is not of sound mind I am coming up against all sorts of brick walls whilst trying to sort everything out for her. I have to apply to become her deputy which is a very lengthy process which will also cost a lot of money.
I feel very lost, I miss my farther very much but have also had no time to greive for him as my Mum is taking all our energy and focus. I am back at my home now for the weekend to try to get some energy back ready to return to the mess on monday.
I would be interested to hear if anyone else had a similer experience and how they coped with it, because I feel it is all to much at the moment.
Thanks for listening,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,M
My mother is currentley being assessed for Alzheimers and was being cared for by my Father with family support.Sadly he passed away suddenly 2 weeks ago which has really changed our circumstances and the safety and security of our mother.
My Fathers death has not really been recognised by Mum, who was shouting at the funeral Director when we were trying to make the arrangements because she did not want to have all this fuss and pay all the money because she did not know who she was burying. This along with her not knowing who we, her 4 children are with us continually being accused of stealing and hiding things was almost to much to bare. We interned my fathers ashes yesterday which was very painful, it broke my heart to realise that I have actually lost both my parents.It was the last straw for my emotions when my Mum told me that she did not want me at the service because I had nothing to do with her.
Just to add to the pain, Dad never left a will so we have all the finacial pressure of trying to deal with that. Also because Mum is not of sound mind I am coming up against all sorts of brick walls whilst trying to sort everything out for her. I have to apply to become her deputy which is a very lengthy process which will also cost a lot of money.
I feel very lost, I miss my farther very much but have also had no time to greive for him as my Mum is taking all our energy and focus. I am back at my home now for the weekend to try to get some energy back ready to return to the mess on monday.
I would be interested to hear if anyone else had a similer experience and how they coped with it, because I feel it is all to much at the moment.
Thanks for listening,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,M