@annielou you are sounding a lot like me. I mostly look after dad and my husband helps but we are rarely together these days and although I appreciate my husbands help I know that this is not a good thing in the long run. It's sometimes me looking after dad for a week or more and then my husband helps me out for a couple of nights. I don't want him to do too much because he is now over 70 years old and it does not seem fair but at the same time I do need a break.
In between my brother will do a few nights giving us a few nights respite in our own home and I am very grateful for this and if we did not get this bit of help I don't think we would survive.
Your husband sounds wonderful, just like mine but it must be very hard for them. I cannot imagine that I would ever have helped my husband look after his mum as she was a selfish old bat unlike my dad who is a complete sweetie even with dementia and I know I have it easier than most but I still need a break.
Have you not got any other siblings who could help out occasionally because it really does make a difference. My brother really took his time before he showed any recognition that dad and also I needed help. It was late coming but I think that if I had not had this bit of help then dad would have been in a care home long ago or I would have had a breakdown at least.
I have set myself a small goal and that is too keep dad in his own home for his 90th birthday which is 4 months away now. If I can do that then I have done well but it will only be possible with the help of my husband and my brother.
I am glad that you got your nails done, I am really looking forward to my haircut tomorrow and the head massage.
It's amazing how easily pleased we are by these little things that others just routinely take for granted. I am just looking forward to some chit chat in the hairdressers. I don't get a lot of that, I may even have a coffee this time.