Hello
@Agzy
How long do you think your OH Pauline will be able to live in assisted living, by herself, before she needs more help and support. You know the progression of dementia and what it leads to but does Pauline?
I know I`m going to sound patronising but I can only suggest you humour her, go along with the suggestion and make enquiries. Perhaps you will be able to take as much time as possible doing this.
My husband wanted to move back to Manchester a year or so into his dementia. I put our house up for sale twice, and at the last minute he got cold feet and we had to let people down. It was when I realised he was unable to take responsibility for a decision that I just went along with his suggestions but always used obstacles as delaying tactics.
I remember trailing around car showrooms looking to buy a new car when my husband had stopped driving and wanted to start again. When he saw the prices, even of second hand cars when he had always bought them new, he was overwhelmed by the cost and after a while stopped wanting to look.
Do you know if Pauline has lost insight into her condition? I don`t know her and may be completely wrong but her suggestion seems imappropriate at this stage of her life.
Apologies in advance if my response is intrusive. If the stairs are the biggest problem could you get help to install a stairlift?