Hubby is going to stay with mum on his own for a few hours tomorrow while I go have my hair and nails done and I'm so nervous about it I wish I'd never agreed to it.
I used to have my nails done every 2/3 weeks and my hair every 6 but have cancelled last few nails and last hair appointments as I've been visiting and then staying with mum and now don't leave her on her own.
I'd cancelled a couple of appointments and then hubby went for his appointment at same place a few weeks ago so I wrote down the rest of my appointments I'd booked up to Christmas and asked him to cancel them for me.
When he came back he told me he'd cancelled them all but tomorrows. He said he was going to take a day off work and stay with mum while i went. I think hairdresser had sort of encouraged him in the idea for me to have a bit of me time.
I said at time I didn't think it was a good idea as hubby hadnt been on his own with mum for months, except for a few minutes at a time while i'm out of room.
But hubby was insistent he'd cope and at the time I had a vague hope mum might have agreed to go to day centre or may have settled a bit to being on own for a while anyway so he wouldn't have to but in actual fact she has got more dependant on me and her confusion and mood are worse than before.
Mum has always loved my hubby and still does but she keeps asking if hubby is mad at her or doesnt like her anymore because she's with me all the time and her brains going (her words not ours). She worries he doesn't talk to her now, which he does, just not a lot, but its hard to find things to talk to mum about and he's always let me and mum do most of the talking. I tell mum no hubby is ok with you just like always has been but Mum is quite paranoid about people not liking her, not talking to her etc and is always asking that sort of thing anyway so I don't how she'll be if just with him.
So here we are with appointment tomorrow and hubby saying he'll manage and me worrying.
Its not a quick appointment either as I was supposed to have my hair highlighted, then while colour on have my nails done, and then hair cut and blow so would normally be there over two hours plus time getting home so more likely gone three hours.
I think its too late to cancel and would feel bad they would lose out as its too late for them to book someone else in my place. I keep wondering if to go but ask just to have my haircut and dried which would be quicker and offer to pay for rest but not have it done.
I know that I'll be worrying how hubby and mum are doing and if they needed me to go home quick it would be a bit harder with colour on hair that would need washing out first.
Why did I not just say no am not going when hubby told me he'd not cancelled it. Aaarrrgghhhh
I used to have my nails done every 2/3 weeks and my hair every 6 but have cancelled last few nails and last hair appointments as I've been visiting and then staying with mum and now don't leave her on her own.
I'd cancelled a couple of appointments and then hubby went for his appointment at same place a few weeks ago so I wrote down the rest of my appointments I'd booked up to Christmas and asked him to cancel them for me.
When he came back he told me he'd cancelled them all but tomorrows. He said he was going to take a day off work and stay with mum while i went. I think hairdresser had sort of encouraged him in the idea for me to have a bit of me time.
I said at time I didn't think it was a good idea as hubby hadnt been on his own with mum for months, except for a few minutes at a time while i'm out of room.
But hubby was insistent he'd cope and at the time I had a vague hope mum might have agreed to go to day centre or may have settled a bit to being on own for a while anyway so he wouldn't have to but in actual fact she has got more dependant on me and her confusion and mood are worse than before.
Mum has always loved my hubby and still does but she keeps asking if hubby is mad at her or doesnt like her anymore because she's with me all the time and her brains going (her words not ours). She worries he doesn't talk to her now, which he does, just not a lot, but its hard to find things to talk to mum about and he's always let me and mum do most of the talking. I tell mum no hubby is ok with you just like always has been but Mum is quite paranoid about people not liking her, not talking to her etc and is always asking that sort of thing anyway so I don't how she'll be if just with him.
So here we are with appointment tomorrow and hubby saying he'll manage and me worrying.
Its not a quick appointment either as I was supposed to have my hair highlighted, then while colour on have my nails done, and then hair cut and blow so would normally be there over two hours plus time getting home so more likely gone three hours.
I think its too late to cancel and would feel bad they would lose out as its too late for them to book someone else in my place. I keep wondering if to go but ask just to have my haircut and dried which would be quicker and offer to pay for rest but not have it done.
I know that I'll be worrying how hubby and mum are doing and if they needed me to go home quick it would be a bit harder with colour on hair that would need washing out first.
Why did I not just say no am not going when hubby told me he'd not cancelled it. Aaarrrgghhhh