Mum 78 is in end stage Alzheimers.She has been in a care home 3.5 yrs, and for the last 10mnth in Nursing Care.
Mum has lost all mobility, no communication, sleeps majority of the time.
So you can imagine how severe the decline has been this past year.
and yet Dad 82 with mild mixed dementia, who lives next door to me and whom I care for still asks 3.5 yrs later if Mum will be coming home soon
My Mum said many years ago, that she hoped that Dad would go before her as he would not cope... and in a strange way I wonder if this is what will happen. Nursing staff say Mum has a strong heart, good pulse, BP. No other medical matters complicating things. She could be at this level for some time yet.
Otherwise how do you prepare a parent for the death of the other? Can you? Especially one with dementia.
My biggest worry is that I will be dealing with Mums funeral, legal matters all at the same time as dealing with Dad who will be confused or distraught and looking at Care Homes.
Mum has lost all mobility, no communication, sleeps majority of the time.
So you can imagine how severe the decline has been this past year.
and yet Dad 82 with mild mixed dementia, who lives next door to me and whom I care for still asks 3.5 yrs later if Mum will be coming home soon
My Mum said many years ago, that she hoped that Dad would go before her as he would not cope... and in a strange way I wonder if this is what will happen. Nursing staff say Mum has a strong heart, good pulse, BP. No other medical matters complicating things. She could be at this level for some time yet.
Otherwise how do you prepare a parent for the death of the other? Can you? Especially one with dementia.
My biggest worry is that I will be dealing with Mums funeral, legal matters all at the same time as dealing with Dad who will be confused or distraught and looking at Care Homes.