I'd like to start off mentioning that due to our current situation my family is ineligible for social support, we cannot pay it (very poor) but since my dad owns a property they deem us as being fit to pay it. My stepmother is on a spouse/marriage visa so we must keep this property (a small flat) as proof of income so she is able to get her residency here in the UK. I am saying this as I cannot accept responses to ask for social care, nor can I accept answers to ask charity or for the possibility of my father being put in a care home. We have asked charity and they have denied us support. We have asked social care and they have denied us support. When we sell the flat we can use the money to pay for my dad's care, but this will not be for a good while.
Hi,
I'm 19 years old and looking after my dad with Alzheimer's. I am starting to lose sleep due to his behaviour and I'm not sure what to do. This is impacting on my existing mental health issues and disabilities. My dad has a routine at night, he will get up, go to the bathroom, eat something, go to the bathroom again, and then start opening the front door and shutting it and opening the back door, shutting it and leaving it unlocked. After that he will go to bed and make loud yelling noises which I've heard is a symptom. I can handle the yelling, but the constant anxiety of him leaving the door open is difficult for me. I have OCD and a couple of other illnesses but it's making it worse since I'm having to check things again now, which is a compulsion I have.
I told my stepmom I would look after my dad in the evenings since she works a part time job as a 1:1 tutor and is also a little more fragile when it comes to losing sleep. It's currently 5am as I'm writing this. I feel exhausted but I feel like I can't rest until I know the door is shut. Luckily I am able to remove the keys from the back door and lock it. I can't do the same for the front door. I don't know what to do, I don't care if he does it in the day since I can tell him to come inside. I want some way to be able to lock the door at night time so he is unable to keep opening it.
However, I am worried about this as before when I've locked my own door my dad has gotten very mad and attempted to kick it down (he was already like this beforehand but coupled with agitation and anxiety from Alzheimer's it's a lot worse). I don't want to stress my dad out. I feel so lost and depressed all the time now, I end up sleeping for the whole day because I stay up.
If anyone has any idea of how to keep it shut in a way that won't upset him please let me know. I'm exhausted.
Thank you
Hi,
I'm 19 years old and looking after my dad with Alzheimer's. I am starting to lose sleep due to his behaviour and I'm not sure what to do. This is impacting on my existing mental health issues and disabilities. My dad has a routine at night, he will get up, go to the bathroom, eat something, go to the bathroom again, and then start opening the front door and shutting it and opening the back door, shutting it and leaving it unlocked. After that he will go to bed and make loud yelling noises which I've heard is a symptom. I can handle the yelling, but the constant anxiety of him leaving the door open is difficult for me. I have OCD and a couple of other illnesses but it's making it worse since I'm having to check things again now, which is a compulsion I have.
I told my stepmom I would look after my dad in the evenings since she works a part time job as a 1:1 tutor and is also a little more fragile when it comes to losing sleep. It's currently 5am as I'm writing this. I feel exhausted but I feel like I can't rest until I know the door is shut. Luckily I am able to remove the keys from the back door and lock it. I can't do the same for the front door. I don't know what to do, I don't care if he does it in the day since I can tell him to come inside. I want some way to be able to lock the door at night time so he is unable to keep opening it.
However, I am worried about this as before when I've locked my own door my dad has gotten very mad and attempted to kick it down (he was already like this beforehand but coupled with agitation and anxiety from Alzheimer's it's a lot worse). I don't want to stress my dad out. I feel so lost and depressed all the time now, I end up sleeping for the whole day because I stay up.
If anyone has any idea of how to keep it shut in a way that won't upset him please let me know. I'm exhausted.
Thank you