Mum doesnt know who I am -or who she is?

[Saffronlizzy]

I knew it was coming but was still a shock. When I visited mum in her CH today she asked me if I was going to call in and see my mum on the way home ! Also to take the flowers I took her and give them to my mum instead. Feels desperate .....

 

[Splashing About]

Another day she might remember. I had this discussion with my daughter today. Both of us feel she still has some connection even if she can’t identify who, what or acknowledge it. A few years back she had no idea who my dad was but then it all came back...bizarre what phases you pass through

 

[nae sporran]

Welcome to Dementia Talking Point @Saffronlizzy. I feel for you after visits to my granny who was never diagnosed with dementia but used to break my heart with similar comments.

 

[Dimpsy]

Sorry to read that @Saffronlizzy, you would think that a parent may forget non-family but always recognise a beloved child, that's the cruelty of dementia, it even robs our PWD of familiarity.

Here's a strange thing, we took mum to a glorious pre-Christmas event yesterday evening; showing her the photos today, she didn't recognise herself. I guess it isn't just familiar faces who get forgotten, but her own self as well. I must admit I was a bit upset by that.

 

[Jale]

I don't think mum knows who I am (daughter), when asked how many children she has she always answers her son - who does everything for her - I know she can't help it, but it does hurt especially the bit that he does everything for her.

 

[Rosserk]

My mum thinks I’m running the care home where she lives which is actually at my house. She also frequently shows me a picture of her mother which is actually a picture of her when she was younger. She’s not distressed by it though which is a blessing. It’s much easier for them to lose or miss someone if they simply can’t remember them ever existing.