Hiya, I think I’m about to contradict the majority of opinions expressed. I am well in favour of care at home, even though my Dad doesn’t recognise the place as we only moved here in autumn of 2017 & he needs to be told when to use the loo, where it is...where his room is etc. (& sometimes who we are!) It’s home to both Mum & Dad (Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s, osteoarthritis and some lung condition and on the other hand cancer, vascular dementia and mixed type) and myself and one of my grown up offspring. So our teamwork keeps care costs down...it is very full time & yes, her care costs are still enormous as she needs double handed lifting so she pays carers in the am for an hour and at night to put her to bed. We do the rest, night time care is sometimes exhausting but I am able to catch up on sleep in the day. We are going for more night time support at weekends and seeing how that goes maybe fortnightly..my son is a young man and has a life...so getting away at times will be an option. Three years ago I looked at a variety of care home options and all I found wanted them split up as their needs were so different. I am glad we have done what we have done if only for them to have a couple more years together. It’s scary to think about the financial implications of the whole thing as there are 2 of us who have mislaid our careers at present. Besides, I know a move to a care home will probably be on the cards in the future but so far I don’t regret this. On occasion they have needed hospital care (so scary for a PWD) and then some recuperation time. This has given us the odd bit of respite and we have been helped by reablement teams to settle them back home. Therefore I have had the opportunity to compare how they reacted when looked after24/7 in a care home and how they are here. Food for thought!