Hi everyone. Just looking for abit of guidance. My grandad is in the later stages and my nan is his carer, they’re both 85. My nan is really struggling to cope as he’s getting worse, but won’t accept any help. I help as much as I can and take them shopping etc when I’m not working. How can I get her to seek more help? She admits it’s probably best he’s in a home now as he’s become incontinent and sometimes violent. However she refuses an assessment as she doesn’t agree with having to pay as they’ve worked all their lives. I really don’t know what to do, as there is help out there e.g she could get a carer in but she says she doesn’t want anybody in her home. It’s really put a strain on our relationship and I just don’t know what to do. My mum lives 2 hours away, her son hasn’t been round in months so it’s just me to try and help. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Sorry long post!