My Dad has dementia I am his only relative and we live 250 miles apart .
He has a long term friend who has not fully accepted his diagnosis ,and is not able to take on his care .
I am in touch with Alzheimer’s society and have meet with a social worker.
We are working on some sort of care package ,what else can I do ????
My sympathies, it is difficult when you live a long way off. As others have advised on this website there are organisations who can offer help but things will definitely feel better for you once you have the social worker's assessment of his needs.
It's difficult when there's only you as all decisions fall on you. I'm in the same situation with mum, perhaps a bit further down the line but would really emphasise the importance of your own wellbeing and making sure you look after yourself. It's easy to go down the road of feeling guilty and disrupting your own life for your relative but it's important to get a balance as you can only do so much. Would recommend you check out Alzheimers Assoc in his area as they will assess you and your dad and offer additional support such as a befriending service, plus will signpost you to different things. Age uk too obviously have help and support and not just practical stuff but wellbeing and support groups and coffee clubs and day centres. The Alzheimers Association may also be able to refer you yourself for support in your own area aswell - they are a really great organisation. Unfortunately where I live, the Alzheimers association didn't have a group but referred me to local carers organisation where I got an enormous amount of support.
It's a lot to think about but take one step at a time, it is exhausting whizzing up and down the country every couple of weeks and easy to put your own life on hold and but again take time for yourself in all this. I wonder what your work arrangements are and whether there would be some flexibility there. Even when you aren't living with a person with dementia there's a lot to do and it can feel a bit like having a second job.
Use this forum, as already been said, there is a wealth of knowledge and shared journies and even if its just to vent at times it can help to not feel so isolated. If I can offer any more help feel free to msg.
Good luck and all the best