Yes, we are over judgemental of ourselves when we care. Yesterday a reliable carer came in so I took the opportunity to go and post a letter, someone crossed to road to see how I was and I just welled over.
I was sharp with someone the other day, she meant well but she said something that indicted I should be more grateful for her help. We all have our trigger points. Her help meant I had to do something too, I was on the edge of exhaustion.
I feel we either can become the victim of this illness or we find ways to compensate ( not the bottle
As a bit self defeating in the long run! A glass perhaps? )
I listened to a Gary Zukav talk saying the almost the same.
I am concentrating on fitting in a bit more self care, I go to sleep after the evening carer leavers, so in the 12 hours of night I try to improve my sleep ratio. Rather like a young mum again! Not with the same supple body or energy though!
I have a good cleaner/friend who is empathetic and gives a hug too! She stops me trying Quentin Crisps theory that dust gets so high then falls off!
I tried that method- it’s handy for writing notes to self in though that don’t get lost!
So a big hug to you all! What a learning curve we have been given!