Hi all,
My Nan was diagnosed with dementia just over 3 years ago and moved into a care home, it's been a steady decline since then, and my mum (POA) and I have been with her through it all, and we visit almost every day between us.
However, in the last few months she has gotten significantly worse, she is now on thickened food and drink, and barely eats (maybe 2-3 tsp per meal, and probably 150ml a day). She hardly speaks, and when she does its a mumble. She has become incontenent, and is in her own little world, i dont think she really registeres who we are any more, but sees us as a familiar face.
But in the last 2 weeks she has become bedbown, and now drifts in and out of consciensness.
I have a feeling that we might be aproaching the end, and i feel like in greiving for her before she's gone, but i just dont know what to do.
In some way as horrid as it sounds i wish she would just drift off in her sleep, but at the same time i don't want to lose my nan, she lived with me all through my childhood (I'm 18 now), and i miss her so so much.
I don't really know what I'm asking, just had to get it all off my chest, Mum is very upset too, and im trying to support her through all the horrible decisions.
Basically, is there any way to tell how long we have left with her, and does anyone have advice on how to stop greiving before its time?
thanks all, sorry for the huge rant xx
My Nan was diagnosed with dementia just over 3 years ago and moved into a care home, it's been a steady decline since then, and my mum (POA) and I have been with her through it all, and we visit almost every day between us.
However, in the last few months she has gotten significantly worse, she is now on thickened food and drink, and barely eats (maybe 2-3 tsp per meal, and probably 150ml a day). She hardly speaks, and when she does its a mumble. She has become incontenent, and is in her own little world, i dont think she really registeres who we are any more, but sees us as a familiar face.
But in the last 2 weeks she has become bedbown, and now drifts in and out of consciensness.
I have a feeling that we might be aproaching the end, and i feel like in greiving for her before she's gone, but i just dont know what to do.
In some way as horrid as it sounds i wish she would just drift off in her sleep, but at the same time i don't want to lose my nan, she lived with me all through my childhood (I'm 18 now), and i miss her so so much.
I don't really know what I'm asking, just had to get it all off my chest, Mum is very upset too, and im trying to support her through all the horrible decisions.
Basically, is there any way to tell how long we have left with her, and does anyone have advice on how to stop greiving before its time?
thanks all, sorry for the huge rant xx
