As the people with POA for my MIL we try and think what would "old" competent MIL have wanted for herself now. Often that helps us either be sure what we are doing is right or at thimes to tweek things a bit. We have done lots without asking, the most difficult selling her car without telling her and that question helped.
Competent MIL wouldnt have wanted to risk she might drive the car if she could have caused an accident. MIL with dementia thought it was totally unreasonable because "I've been driving for longer than youve been alive".
If someone has chosen you to be POA then they have said they trust you to choose for them when they cant choose for themselves. That is and honour and huge responsibility but different to going behind their back.
Competent MIL wouldnt have wanted to risk she might drive the car if she could have caused an accident. MIL with dementia thought it was totally unreasonable because "I've been driving for longer than youve been alive".
If someone has chosen you to be POA then they have said they trust you to choose for them when they cant choose for themselves. That is and honour and huge responsibility but different to going behind their back.