Hi im new to all this and struggling. Our mum was taken into intensive care three weeks ago. Shes very ill and has been caring for our 89 year old dad with stage 4 lung cancer and dementia. She would not let any help in the home no matter how hard we tried. We see how much she had been struggling in the home and with our lovely dad. We do not live near have a many health issues but are trying to care for him at their home but desperate for help. We are waiting for help but so far no call. How long does it take for the process with dementia care to actually get started. We have not seen a soul we are desperate and i suffer from anxiety and depression. Dad is distraught mums not hear. We take him up and down to the hospital to see her its miles away and hes on oxygen and we desperately need to attend our own appointments.