I called in to see my wife this morning. She was fast asleep in the lounge and woke up just to say “Hello Darling” before going back to sleep. A lady was attending to another resident, trying to take her blood pressure and temperature. She was a fairly newly-appointed nurse covering 2 GP practices, including the residents of 3 care homes. She established who I was then went off to read my wife's notes. We then had a short meeting when she asked my views on whether my wife should be admitted to hospital in the event of heart attack, stroke or some other life-threatening event. She agreed with me that, given her advanced stage and general lack of quality of life, it would be better not to admit her to hospital for ‘life saving’ treatment if she could continue to have her basic needs attended to at her care home.
We also talked about having a do not attempt resuscitation (DNAR) order in her medical records and the nurse said that she could organise this, to which I agreed. I confirmed that I have Power of Attorney for Health and Welfare. I had been meaning to do something about this in any case. It seems to me that it would be cruel rather than compassionate to attempt to take measures to keep my wife alive only to return her to the shadow of a life to which she is now condemned. It may never happen in this way, but it is better to have clear instructions in place than to leave it to chance.
We also talked about having a do not attempt resuscitation (DNAR) order in her medical records and the nurse said that she could organise this, to which I agreed. I confirmed that I have Power of Attorney for Health and Welfare. I had been meaning to do something about this in any case. It seems to me that it would be cruel rather than compassionate to attempt to take measures to keep my wife alive only to return her to the shadow of a life to which she is now condemned. It may never happen in this way, but it is better to have clear instructions in place than to leave it to chance.