My husband was diagnosed over a year ago with Alzheimers, although I know he has been struggling for about 3 years previously, I am really struggling, he has completely changed from the person he was, everything that was good about him has gone. He now sits on the sofa from 7.30am until 9.00pm reading the same book, he hardly talks to me, he doesn't make himself a drink or anything to eat, he just sits and waits for everything, he doesn't know even how to turn the TV on. He will not accept that he has anything wrong with him and so he won't go to any groups or have anyone in, there is just me and him. I get out in total for 8 hours a week, the rest of the time I am in the house. I have to shave him, prepare the shower, encourage him to wash, change his clothes and last week I had to start cleaning his teeth. We never go anywhere, he won't even entertain the idea of eating out. Now he has started getting up through the night and walking around turning every light on in the house and waking me up. The only time he appears to talk to me is about going to the toilet, anxious about getting up in the morning, and he is crying a lot. I spent 3 hours at the emergency Dr on Sunday at our local hospital, because he said he had something wrong with his stomach, after waiting, when we got in there he said he was fine and the pain had gone. Sorry people, Im really struggling to adjust from being a wife and friend to a carer, and just needed to vent my feelings. If anyone has any suggestions about what I can do Id be grateful.