Hi all. I’m new posting here, but have gained lots of help and support over the last few months from this forum. Thank you. Mum is 81, and has lived quite independently on her own since Dad died many years ago. Memory issues first surfaced five ish years ago, they have got worse but managed by Mums daily routine, and by me (only child) cooking for her and controlling her medication. Then crash- it all fell apart at the end of July. Mum broke her ankle, (does not know how) and had a huge seizure in the fracture clinic, which led to delirium, and a terrible worsening of her dementia. She is no longer safe or capable of living alone and has been in a wonderful care home since being released from hospital on respite care. I’ve waited a very long 12 weeks for Social Services to assess ( self funding but now savings have just about gone- home on the market) but I am terrified that she will be sent home as a result of the assessment. The home agree she isn’t safe, she’s really vulnerable. She can’t rem what has happened two mins ago, has tried to give away all of her personal possessions, practices no self care unless prompted, does not know the day, month, year. She cries daily at tea time saying she’s scared of being on her own (sundowning?). The other day when I took her out for tea and cake, upon returning to the care home she thought she was back at School. She’s stuttering her words and struggling to get them out. I am still waiting for an appointment to the memory clinic. I have an activated Enduring Power of Attorney. My heart would love for Mum to go home, but my head knows she’s too vulnerable. I love her so much but I feel the weight of it all on my shoulders. Any advice for the Care Assessment would be really greatly appreciated. Thank you xx