Not sure how to support atm, but advice would be most helpful.
I had my fil recently visit with my mil who has mixed dementia and alzheimers.
Quite a difficult situation we live in Scotland and they live in Yorkshire. They have recently become great grandparents. My husband drove to get them, we looked after and cared for my mil, and fil got to meet his ggd. Wonderful weekend and mil in some way got to meet her ggd.
My husband and I have no problem with the caring and keeping her clean at all, it's our daily jobs.
6 weeks later we went to Yorkshire to visit (bil visits in the meantime) many changes seen to have appeared. Mil has had this diagnosis a number of years but we felt this had been happening a number of years before but was unable to convince her husband anything was wrong. Now, mil has been in the medical profession since 16 (she's now 82) her mantra was "pills are for patients". She will not take anything so is more progressive than most folk with this horrendous thing.
This weekend, we have witnessed even more of a change. Aggressiveness, a peculiar reading out loud what she sees (almost backwards, sometimes) trying to drink from a milk jug, picking up teapot to pour over her dinner, an almost orgasmic way of talking to another of her sons, the double incontinence which has been there for a couple of years now, but it's not her and doesn't see its her but all over bedroom (and me on one occasion) The list could go on.
There is a care company in daily, sometimes twice a day, and fil tries his best to look after her the rest of the time but he's 85. He won't give up, honestly not sure if he just a stubborn Yorkshire man or is in fear.
Does anyone else have a similar situation and how do you cope with it?
I had my fil recently visit with my mil who has mixed dementia and alzheimers.
Quite a difficult situation we live in Scotland and they live in Yorkshire. They have recently become great grandparents. My husband drove to get them, we looked after and cared for my mil, and fil got to meet his ggd. Wonderful weekend and mil in some way got to meet her ggd.
My husband and I have no problem with the caring and keeping her clean at all, it's our daily jobs.
6 weeks later we went to Yorkshire to visit (bil visits in the meantime) many changes seen to have appeared. Mil has had this diagnosis a number of years but we felt this had been happening a number of years before but was unable to convince her husband anything was wrong. Now, mil has been in the medical profession since 16 (she's now 82) her mantra was "pills are for patients". She will not take anything so is more progressive than most folk with this horrendous thing.
This weekend, we have witnessed even more of a change. Aggressiveness, a peculiar reading out loud what she sees (almost backwards, sometimes) trying to drink from a milk jug, picking up teapot to pour over her dinner, an almost orgasmic way of talking to another of her sons, the double incontinence which has been there for a couple of years now, but it's not her and doesn't see its her but all over bedroom (and me on one occasion) The list could go on.
There is a care company in daily, sometimes twice a day, and fil tries his best to look after her the rest of the time but he's 85. He won't give up, honestly not sure if he just a stubborn Yorkshire man or is in fear.
Does anyone else have a similar situation and how do you cope with it?