It helps enormously to read other people's posts. My mother-in-law has been in a nursing home for almost two years now and whilst initially we visited a few times a week....for our well-being we just visit once a week now at a time which works best for mother-in-law. I can't quite explain how painful it was to watch her fight us away today. She has Lewy Body Dementia.....and is so aware of her predicament. And whilst very few words were recognisable....the gist was that we have just left her there......that we just say we love her....She would take no comfort today. Her anger was very, very real. She was tired....having unusually been kept up after lunch rather than resting a little....so I know the timing didn't work today.....But we need a way of coping with these visits without them becoming a breaking point every weekend. I sound so selfish.....and I know her suffering is unbearable compared to ours.....I do know, however, that my mother-in-law has lived her life to the full...for the first 60 years at least....She is now only 70.....I suppose I want to selfishly get back to living our lives to the full too.....Any suggestions with coping better in this situation would be most welcome xxx