Sorry, I'm sure this is very common with pwds but I can't find the right keywords for asearch.
My FiL lives alone, with a morning carer visit and 2 visits a week from my BiL (mainly taken up with çhores). He has very limited mobility and spends all day dozing on and off in his chair. A little while ago he had some scam calls which upset him, and my BiL set up a call blocking system.
BiL says that the scammers can no longer phone, but when we spoke to FiLtoday he said that the scammer is permanently listening to him, and constantly on at him to get his money, and seems to think that the phone has been bugged by the scammer (who has nothing better to do than sit 24/7 listening to his almost non-existent phone calls.)
I have suggested that his sons tell him they've been in touch with BT and they have done a special security device which blocks phone bugs.......however, my husband thinks he won't believe it cos he still sounds very on the ball and lucid (I suspect an element of hosting in our phonecalls to him), tho FiL is very untechnical, no internet,mobile etc. BiL is stuck in the 'çan't lie to him' thinking. I am all in favour of saying whatever will allay his anxiety, as there is no-one around most of the time to reassure him if he is anxious. I wondered if anyone has any better ideas for dealing with this?
Also, as I said, he does sound almost normal in a 15 min phone call, with the occasional misunderstanding or forgetfulness that you could expect at 91......then we get something out of the blue like the 'bugging' which suddenly makes us wonder if he could be worse than we think. The Memory team Dr/nurse who visited him earlier in the year reckoned he had age related impairment, adamant she saw no dementia, but now the hospital delirium seems to have finally lifted there are still some random óff' moments. His memory seems reasonable, his behaviour (as far as we know) is ok and he can't leave the house so he can't wander, it mainly seems to be this paranoia......could this 'just' be MCI, or is it bizarre enough to indicate early dementia? Just trying to get a feel for how he might be coping
My FiL lives alone, with a morning carer visit and 2 visits a week from my BiL (mainly taken up with çhores). He has very limited mobility and spends all day dozing on and off in his chair. A little while ago he had some scam calls which upset him, and my BiL set up a call blocking system.
BiL says that the scammers can no longer phone, but when we spoke to FiLtoday he said that the scammer is permanently listening to him, and constantly on at him to get his money, and seems to think that the phone has been bugged by the scammer (who has nothing better to do than sit 24/7 listening to his almost non-existent phone calls.)
I have suggested that his sons tell him they've been in touch with BT and they have done a special security device which blocks phone bugs.......however, my husband thinks he won't believe it cos he still sounds very on the ball and lucid (I suspect an element of hosting in our phonecalls to him), tho FiL is very untechnical, no internet,mobile etc. BiL is stuck in the 'çan't lie to him' thinking. I am all in favour of saying whatever will allay his anxiety, as there is no-one around most of the time to reassure him if he is anxious. I wondered if anyone has any better ideas for dealing with this?
Also, as I said, he does sound almost normal in a 15 min phone call, with the occasional misunderstanding or forgetfulness that you could expect at 91......then we get something out of the blue like the 'bugging' which suddenly makes us wonder if he could be worse than we think. The Memory team Dr/nurse who visited him earlier in the year reckoned he had age related impairment, adamant she saw no dementia, but now the hospital delirium seems to have finally lifted there are still some random óff' moments. His memory seems reasonable, his behaviour (as far as we know) is ok and he can't leave the house so he can't wander, it mainly seems to be this paranoia......could this 'just' be MCI, or is it bizarre enough to indicate early dementia? Just trying to get a feel for how he might be coping