Just wondering how and if others holiday with their PWD? We are just over 2 yrs in on diagnoses, and still have our camper van, and he still drives. This year has been quite difficult, culminating in a 1000 mile round trip in it to see my dad. He thought at one stage that the hard shoulder of the A1 was the near side lane. But talk of not driving and selling the van just makes him mad. We did have a week away in an air bnb, where for the entire week, he couldn’t find the loo, the bedroom or anywhere. It causes me endless stress. But I can’t tell him that.
How have others navigated these events?
Hiya
Holidays with my wife spanned both prior to, and after diagnosis of dementia (FTD). In fact it was on a 4th visit to our favourite hotel in Ibiza, that several incidents made me realise that on our return, I really had to get her to see our GP (again) to address her worsening memory/behavioural problems.
I took the decision that it would not be safe (for her or me - I have a medical condition too) for us to go abroad on holiday on our own. So having then been diagnosed, we did go back to Ibiza a couple of years later with our son's and grand-kids. My wife was a bit disorientated plus she ended up being taken to hospital with a sickness bug. Although only kept in overnight (thankfully, I was able to stay with her on a camp bed), it was a bit of a nightmare.
The next year (glutton for punishment?), we all went to Crete, where there were no major incidents. She did, however, find it all very confusing and I don't think it benefited either of us, so that was the end of our trips away.
It really does depend on their level of awareness, cognitive abilities and behaviours, which only you can judge. My wife had retreated into her own happy little world, so would have gone wherever I led her but I knew that the time had come to call it a day.
Fast forward 3 years (she is only 68) and she had sadly recently had to move into residential nursing home care (see my post
"Respite Woes").
It sounds as though your husband may no longer be safe to keep on driving? There have been many threads on TP about this issue and others, I am sure, will be able to offer suitable suggestions.
Kind regards
Phil