I have just joined the group and this if my first post. My mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a year ago, probably a year after the family began to suspect something wasn't right, although Mum was in denial there was anything wrong with her memory. The diagnosis came as a shock to us all and my dad felt that we shouldn't tell mum the full story as it would distress her and have a negative impact on her well-being. She has always been reluctant to confront health problems and tends to bury her head in the sand. At our request, her consultant at the memory clinic explained her diagnosis using the term "memory problems" rather than the words dementia or Alzheimer's and we have all continued in this vein. Mum is now on Donapezil and Memantine and has continued to deny there is any issue until very recently, when she has gone quite sharply downhill. Both her short-term and long-term memory are poor and she can't remember large chunks of our family history, and the other day asked: "What is wrong with me? Why can't I remember?" It caught us completely off-guard and we don't know how to deal with the questions, as she has never been interested in knowing the answer before. I just replied that she's getting older and her memory is poor and not to worry. We have decided it's better to try to keep things in present tense, rather than talk about the past, but she often asks questions about where we used to live etc. Have others here not been entirely open about naming the diagnosis or do most of your loved ones know exactly what their condition is? I worry that telling her she has Alzheimer's will be really upsetting to her but want to be as honest as I can without distressing her unnecessarily. Any advice gratefully received. Thanks