I'm sorry that I have only just picked up this reply. I moved my Dad to the new home 2 weeks ago, it went surprisingly well. I ordered a wheelchair taxi and my Dad never asked any questions and we arrived at the new home and he seemed okay. He had enjoyed the ride. He has settled far better in the new home which is a dementia village type home. The staff are great and my Dad has been calm and not agitated whilst he has been there. There is plenty of space to walk around, which he has to have, and if he wants to go out of the unit the staff take him into the internal gardens and into the dementia village. He still wants to leave but all this seems to help passify him. However, at weekend he went down with a chest infection and was admitted into hospital. He has been extremely agitated in the hospital and the threatening behaviour has returned. Hopefully, he will be back at the Care Home in a few days.
As to your question can I bring him home. I ask myself this every single day. If he was at home he would need 24/7 care or else he would not be safe. He would leave his home to try and get to his childhood home, which is what was happening. He did not like carers at his home, he just wanted me. If the carers came he would ask when I was coming. I was trying to hold down my job, run a family and be at my Dads house most of the time. Things just got to much plus my Dad was isolated, he had no interaction with anyone as he was not interested in anything but me. He did not want to socialise with anyone but me. He was incontinent which could not be managed and he continually got urine infections and was ill. The house is not fit for a live in carer which I was advised he would need two people in case he fell as he is extremely at risk from falling after suffering a broken hip which needed a hip replacement. He also needs a knew knee. He will not use a walking frame. So, you tell me am i doing wrong not bringing him home? This troubles me most. Thank you for reading and replying to this.