This is not a cry for help just a recognition of how resourceful I have had to become in finding my way around my mother's issues. I know you will all understand you have been there too.
It was my Mum's birthday at the beginning of the month and my sister and I pushed the boat out for her. We organised a a family party with all her children , grandchildren, nieces and nephews there; ordered her a special cake - fruit just they way she likes- and she was showered with attention and presents. She loved it , has forgotten all about it now of course, but at the time it was worth the effort.
I spent a lot of money on a beautiful card, because I know she enjoys looking at them and reading the verses and messages. Sure enough, she loved it and it is still on her mantlepiece. Her other cards are now in a pile and she re reads them several times a day and writes a list of those who sent them to her. Of course I am never on the list, as my card is still on the mantlepiece, so her list always ends with a note in block capitals - NO CARD FROM UNASMUM. This is followed up with a tearful call where I am berated for forgetting her birthday and accusing me of not caring. Today I bought another card signed it and slipped it into her pile - problem solved. It is amazing how resourceful we have to become.
It was my Mum's birthday at the beginning of the month and my sister and I pushed the boat out for her. We organised a a family party with all her children , grandchildren, nieces and nephews there; ordered her a special cake - fruit just they way she likes- and she was showered with attention and presents. She loved it , has forgotten all about it now of course, but at the time it was worth the effort.
I spent a lot of money on a beautiful card, because I know she enjoys looking at them and reading the verses and messages. Sure enough, she loved it and it is still on her mantlepiece. Her other cards are now in a pile and she re reads them several times a day and writes a list of those who sent them to her. Of course I am never on the list, as my card is still on the mantlepiece, so her list always ends with a note in block capitals - NO CARD FROM UNASMUM. This is followed up with a tearful call where I am berated for forgetting her birthday and accusing me of not caring. Today I bought another card signed it and slipped it into her pile - problem solved. It is amazing how resourceful we have to become.