my father lives on his own ,he is 82 years old,he's had dementia around 10 years now.
I am my dads main carer and literally do everything for dad and around the house.
I'm there around 4 hours a day .
However I am going back to work and tried to put more care into place,so that my dad is eating and drinking enough fluids.
So here goes.
My dad needs prompting to eat ,drink,wash,he needs help in the shower,the last couple of weeks he has been getting up in the night and not making it to the toilet,
He's leaving taps on ,bowling the kettle with no water in.
All this has been brought to social services and care companies attention.
I asked the question at what stage do you think my dad is at the Manager of the company said 3 I said no dad I said at stage 6 , doesn't know us,can't make a sandwich ,can't make a drink,won't do either if no ones there ,lost weight.his fluid intake is very poor unless someone is there with him.
Today I get to my dads at 11.40 he's up sitting in his vest ,shoes,and pyjama bottoms,tap running,no water in kettle,carer should come at 1.30 arrived just after 2 we only have female carers as dad doesn't like male carers,through a bad experience.
Luckily for dad I was still there with him
So they come in at 1.30 to do him toast,a drink,and tablets,they then prepare a lunch which he never eats,then they come at 5.30/6 pm to give him tea which consists of a couple of spoonfuls of dinner,a drink of pop.
We had a meeting,to up dads care ,they don't want to know,but what's going to happen when I'm at work ,my dad sitting there until someone comes in to feed him ,it's absolutely shocking.i don't know what to do anymore.
I asked the care company if dad had lost weight she said yes.
I go in he's combing his face, he doesn't know who anyone is,he's still well mannered and I keep him immaculate.i make sure his skin is hydrated,he's fed well and hydrated, I know he will go downhill once I go back to work.
Why can't my dad have carers in 4 times a day ???, we part fund his care.
Kind Regards
T.
I am my dads main carer and literally do everything for dad and around the house.
I'm there around 4 hours a day .
However I am going back to work and tried to put more care into place,so that my dad is eating and drinking enough fluids.
So here goes.
My dad needs prompting to eat ,drink,wash,he needs help in the shower,the last couple of weeks he has been getting up in the night and not making it to the toilet,
He's leaving taps on ,bowling the kettle with no water in.
All this has been brought to social services and care companies attention.
I asked the question at what stage do you think my dad is at the Manager of the company said 3 I said no dad I said at stage 6 , doesn't know us,can't make a sandwich ,can't make a drink,won't do either if no ones there ,lost weight.his fluid intake is very poor unless someone is there with him.
Today I get to my dads at 11.40 he's up sitting in his vest ,shoes,and pyjama bottoms,tap running,no water in kettle,carer should come at 1.30 arrived just after 2 we only have female carers as dad doesn't like male carers,through a bad experience.
Luckily for dad I was still there with him
So they come in at 1.30 to do him toast,a drink,and tablets,they then prepare a lunch which he never eats,then they come at 5.30/6 pm to give him tea which consists of a couple of spoonfuls of dinner,a drink of pop.
We had a meeting,to up dads care ,they don't want to know,but what's going to happen when I'm at work ,my dad sitting there until someone comes in to feed him ,it's absolutely shocking.i don't know what to do anymore.
I asked the care company if dad had lost weight she said yes.
I go in he's combing his face, he doesn't know who anyone is,he's still well mannered and I keep him immaculate.i make sure his skin is hydrated,he's fed well and hydrated, I know he will go downhill once I go back to work.
Why can't my dad have carers in 4 times a day ???, we part fund his care.
Kind Regards
T.
