This is the first time I have posted here, and it's slightly out of desperation....
My father who is 88 has dementia, and my mum (76) is his carer. My brother and I live next door to them, so we are close at hand but we both work full time (me a long commute away) and can't be there all the time.
My mum has been 'coping' for a few years with looking after him, but this morning she rang me in tears to say she can't do it any more. He has suddenly gone doubly incontinent, and she can't deal with it. My brother and I know it is time for our father to be cared for in a proper care home. Our mum has tried to care for him, but she's now lost patience, and is exhausted and depressed, and can't give my dad the care he needs.
There is a care home very close by. It will cost a lot of money, but we feel it is the best thing to do now. My question is, we don't know if the care home has places at present, but in the short term, could anyone give me advice on who to contact for some immediate help for her? She's at her wits end, and I'm not sure what to do for the best.
My father who is 88 has dementia, and my mum (76) is his carer. My brother and I live next door to them, so we are close at hand but we both work full time (me a long commute away) and can't be there all the time.
My mum has been 'coping' for a few years with looking after him, but this morning she rang me in tears to say she can't do it any more. He has suddenly gone doubly incontinent, and she can't deal with it. My brother and I know it is time for our father to be cared for in a proper care home. Our mum has tried to care for him, but she's now lost patience, and is exhausted and depressed, and can't give my dad the care he needs.
There is a care home very close by. It will cost a lot of money, but we feel it is the best thing to do now. My question is, we don't know if the care home has places at present, but in the short term, could anyone give me advice on who to contact for some immediate help for her? She's at her wits end, and I'm not sure what to do for the best.