I am new to the group, I have an 87 year old mother with mixed dementia ,vascular . I am at my wits end with her she lives on her own over an hours drive away, I visit twice a week ,clean her flat, shop, wash her. She phones me in excess of thirty times a day and night I get calls at 2 am , to 5 am shouting at me ,saying I have left her in a terrible place swearing at me, she calls the police at least three times at week saying strangers are in her house, she has hallucinations and delusions. She is adamant she won’t go in a home, I was planning to have her with me for the winter but not sure if I will cope, I am 55 with three teenagers. She has mobility problems and can no longer walk .unaided. She is on quetiapine which don’t seem to do much. I just need some advice from someone in the same someone in the same boat. Feeling very stressed. Sorry for the rant.