Just to confirm that when I was referring to Mum's experience it was because she DOES enjoy showering and, having lost a number of life's little pleasures due to dementia, I thought this was one she could retain. Perhaps if the home had explained at the outset that shower/bath would be once weekly it would have been less of a shock - I did not think to ask them if there was a restriction. I was certainly not advocating forcing anyone who did not enjoy the experience to have showers more frequently.
Mum is unsteady but fairly mobile and there is no question of needing hoists or two carers. I did not mean to imply any criticism of anyone who was not insisting on frequent showers/baths for their loved ones. I know I am so lucky that Mum does still have good things to enjoy and feel so sorry for those of you whose loved ones have become frail and who need so much care just to be made reasonably comfortable. TP is here for us to support each other and I would never want to offend anyone who is having to bear the pain of having a loved one suffer.
Mum is unsteady but fairly mobile and there is no question of needing hoists or two carers. I did not mean to imply any criticism of anyone who was not insisting on frequent showers/baths for their loved ones. I know I am so lucky that Mum does still have good things to enjoy and feel so sorry for those of you whose loved ones have become frail and who need so much care just to be made reasonably comfortable. TP is here for us to support each other and I would never want to offend anyone who is having to bear the pain of having a loved one suffer.