I never had this with my Mum ( Alzheimers now in care ) apart from her getting stroppy, me splitting her weekly cash into 3 weekly lots in case she lost it.
Dad has mixed dementia.
Mum used to give him a weekly sum, which I continued throughout her dementia.
Mums been in care 3 yrs, and in fact Dad gets more a week now than Mum would allow him.
Every Monday I get him the same amount, same denominations.
3 weeks ago Dad won a reasonable amount of money gambling.
I don’t know the exact amount, but I did see it in his wallet.
I withheld one of his weekly cash I get for him, and told him as it was his grandchildren’s birthdays coming up I would keep it aside. He agreed.
He’s still quite aware and generally his short term memory for most things is ok.
But No! This week I’ve been accused of not giving him any money for a month.
I just repeat myself over and over, I work for a bank, I know exactly how much I took out, and how much I gave him.
Apparently now, the money that he won, was money for a friend that he won and was looking after
He’s been asking about Mums pension, where’s her money? and also how much money him & mum have got.
Their money is safely away.
My sister wants me to get a book and get Dad to sign for his weekly money.
Does anyone think this is worth a go?
Dad has mixed dementia.
Mum used to give him a weekly sum, which I continued throughout her dementia.
Mums been in care 3 yrs, and in fact Dad gets more a week now than Mum would allow him.
Every Monday I get him the same amount, same denominations.
3 weeks ago Dad won a reasonable amount of money gambling.
I don’t know the exact amount, but I did see it in his wallet.
I withheld one of his weekly cash I get for him, and told him as it was his grandchildren’s birthdays coming up I would keep it aside. He agreed.
He’s still quite aware and generally his short term memory for most things is ok.
But No! This week I’ve been accused of not giving him any money for a month.
I just repeat myself over and over, I work for a bank, I know exactly how much I took out, and how much I gave him.
Apparently now, the money that he won, was money for a friend that he won and was looking after
He’s been asking about Mums pension, where’s her money? and also how much money him & mum have got.
Their money is safely away.
My sister wants me to get a book and get Dad to sign for his weekly money.
Does anyone think this is worth a go?