Hi, I am new to the forum and I am asking a question on behalf of my dad.
My dad is 82 and a little frail now, he is caring for my mum with Alzheimer's (middle stages). She can be aggressive, angry, moody and depressed. She does not accept her diagnosis and is in complete denial. She has just had memantime added to her drug regime and also takes donepezil and citalapram. However, she is quite often refusing to take her medication or hiding it. So we do not know what benefit there is.
Our current concern though is that she gets progressively worse later in the day and by about 9 pm she does not recognise her husband, my dad, and eventually chucks him out of the house and tells him he has to leave. My dad often feels there is no alternative but to go and then has to drive up the road and wait until she calls him, usually crying and begs him to come home (with no knowledge it was her who told him to leave - he is a stranger who has no place there - when she calls him she is calling her husband to come home). When he gets home she is distraught, crying etc - and telling him that there were strange men (now men not just one) in the house.
Now while we have he lighter evenings and better weather this is manageable (to a degree, he is an 82 year old frail man) but as the evenings get darker and the weather worse, I really do not want my dad having to leave and go out in his car.
Sometimes he gets away with going into the spare room to sleep, but he doesn't really manage to sleep as she will be in and out and can't settle.
Any suggestions? No amount of 'distraction' or reasoning with her seems to help.
Thank you
Michelle
My dad is 82 and a little frail now, he is caring for my mum with Alzheimer's (middle stages). She can be aggressive, angry, moody and depressed. She does not accept her diagnosis and is in complete denial. She has just had memantime added to her drug regime and also takes donepezil and citalapram. However, she is quite often refusing to take her medication or hiding it. So we do not know what benefit there is.
Our current concern though is that she gets progressively worse later in the day and by about 9 pm she does not recognise her husband, my dad, and eventually chucks him out of the house and tells him he has to leave. My dad often feels there is no alternative but to go and then has to drive up the road and wait until she calls him, usually crying and begs him to come home (with no knowledge it was her who told him to leave - he is a stranger who has no place there - when she calls him she is calling her husband to come home). When he gets home she is distraught, crying etc - and telling him that there were strange men (now men not just one) in the house.
Now while we have he lighter evenings and better weather this is manageable (to a degree, he is an 82 year old frail man) but as the evenings get darker and the weather worse, I really do not want my dad having to leave and go out in his car.
Sometimes he gets away with going into the spare room to sleep, but he doesn't really manage to sleep as she will be in and out and can't settle.
Any suggestions? No amount of 'distraction' or reasoning with her seems to help.
Thank you
Michelle