Ok so I’m dreading the driving to & from Mums. Holiday season means epic traffic jams & longer journey times on an already tiring journey. My M.E is not good meaning my T.I.A damage from 20 years ago is heightened. I’m maxed out on meds & antidepressants & cried yesterday when dropping my lovely daughter at the bus station so she could get to the airport to meet uni friend who lives in Ibiza! Oh my god I’m so jealous..... I’d love a holiday but don’t have the finances, time or energy if I’m honest.
I feel like my mums a drain mentally & emotionally & because of that I feel guilty that I don’t do enough. Vicious circle !!!
If only Mum wasn’t so negative & horrid about everything & everyone- that would be a help. I know the sooner I leave the sooner I will get back ......... but it’s a lonely long journey & I actually dread it; you’d think after all these years it would get easier.
OH will take me next week when mother has a hospital appointment for eye surgery. I am going to write to the consultant & make sure that he liaises with SW to ensure night cate package is in place after eye surgery. Mum didn’t respond well to surgery last time her paranoia really kicked in even though it was done under local anaesthetic!!!!
So let’s play Mum bingo, a bit like Trump bingo but more personal to the PWD.
1- where’s my cleaner
2- I need new glasses
3- I can’t do that
4- I don’t have much of an appetite
5 - I can’t make appointments
6- I don’t like the chiropodist that does house calls ( mum booked)
7- I’m not able to .....
8- why would I want to hear about other people’s holidays
9- my hearing aids broken
10- somethings wrong with the phone
11- I’m fed up of being told what to do by people
12- why do the carers come in so early in the morning
13- nosy Parker’s
14- I’m not being told what to do
15- Dr ****** is lovely she works so hard
( bloody doesn’t she works 2 days a week & runs other businesses!!)
16- I don’t get any visitors
17- oh guess who came to see me
18- why do the carers make me shower
19- I don’t like the shower
20 - I like a bath
21- I can’t manage the bath
( bath lift removed at mums request)
22- tattoos has been here (SW)
23- I can’t hear you, speak up
24- don’t shout you don’t know who’s listening
25- somethings wrong with this hearing aid
26- I heard that
27- they ( next door neighbours) are always spying on me
28- him next door
29- who does she think she is
30- busybodies
31- nosy neighbours
32- I have lovely neighbours
33- I don’t like them
34- I had men in the garden
35- men are talking about me
36- I can hear the men at night talking
37- the stone by the gate was moved
38- I can’t walk
39- I sat out in the garage
40- I don’t need people coming into the house
41- is Daddy better
42- what’s he looking like? Thin
43- can’t believe how well Daddy settles into there
44- does Daddy ask after me
45- does Daddy talk about me
46- how Daddy
48- daddy’s not a sociable person
49- Daddy’s an awkward ......
50- I need leeks ( I throw out veg!)
51- I haven’t got _________ ( cupboard & freezer full of)
52- no one will give me a lift
53- I don’t want to go there
54- why would I want to do that
55- don’t start
56- oh stop that blubbering
57- I didn’t kick you my foot just sprang out
58- oh shut up
59- I’m so tired all the time
60- I wish I was dead
61- oh I fancy a holiday
62- I’m not able to go anywhere
63- I went out for a little walk around the estate
64- saw that nice man
65- what do they think I am
66- I haven’t got any money in the house
67- oh I didn’t know I had money
68- I’m not stupid
69- I can sort it out myself
70- can you ring them for me
71- I haven’t had a letter from them
72- that letters been there for ages
73- I haven’t had a bank statement
74- why do they keep sending all this mail
75- can’t be bothered with it
76- I don’t understand
77- you do it
78- anyone would think I’m incapable
79- I’m quite capable you know
80- I’m not able to cook
81- no point in cooking for one
82- don’t buy too much the freezers full
83- is that all you got
84- what took you so long
85- I don’t like that much
86- that thing you got me was lovely I’ll have that again
87- I haven’t got any food in the house
88- don’t cook up anymore meals I will never get through them all
89- did you get me more money out
90- I don’t go anywhere to spend money
Bet I get a full house on Mum bingo!