My mum keeps asking after my dad and grandfather. We did our best with distraction and white lies that they are ok and that we will contact them. A carer blurted out a few days ago that they are long gone. She has been crying ever since and wants to go home. I am hoping this will pass. Would like to hear from others who have had a similar experience and how they have managed. Love and best wishes.
Mum aged 92 with dementia struggling with grief
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Have you seen this thread? https://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/threads/compassionate-communication-with-the-memory-impaired.30801/
Sorry your mum is having to grieve again, Chandra55.
A couple of years ago my partner went for about a month wondering about her mum who died 30 years ago. She was sure her mum was in hospital somewhere and nobody knew where. I went for the love lies and tried to offer reassurance, but eventually she moved on to talking about something else. I hope for your mum's sake as well as your that she too can forget about it soon.
A couple of years ago my partner went for about a month wondering about her mum who died 30 years ago. She was sure her mum was in hospital somewhere and nobody knew where. I went for the love lies and tried to offer reassurance, but eventually she moved on to talking about something else. I hope for your mum's sake as well as your that she too can forget about it soon.
You were doing exactly the right thing with distraction. I always used to do the same with my dad. I would have a word with the care agency and ask for someone who understands dementia if you can, so it doesn't happen again.
I hope your mum soon forgets.
I hope your mum soon forgets.
