sorry for what will be a long post.
I made the decision that after caring for mum in my home for 2 years - and previous in hers for 5 years that mum needs to be in a care home.
Since making the decision mum went into much needed respite for a week at a care home that we both liked. It’s the only one in our area that I would consider for mum.
After respite I made decision that mum needed full time care and we set about getting her into the care home where she had respite.
I have been through assessment with the council etc and they have agreed to pay her fees to £500 and that have said I will need to pay a top up.
They contacted where mum had had respite and they said we needed to pay £100 a week on top. After mush discussion with my OH we agreed that we could pay the top up and we thought we are all systems go. The care homes have now said - after 1 week - that they now want £300 per week! I am devastated as we can not afford this. Can they just change their minds!!
I asked for mum to have respite there for another week as I am literally on the floor due to the stress of working full time and caring for mum on evening and weekends. I am suffering with anxiety, depression and have often felt suicidal. I have no life - I am existing.
The care homes have now said that they won’t accept Mum for respite unless we pay full private fees! How can this be fair when we paid top up for respite 4 weeks ago!?!?
My question is can they go back on what was agreed - as in the £100 per week? I am at a loss. I’m desperate to get mum into full time care before she has an accident - I can’t watch her 24 hours but a day and when she is left by herself we have had some really bad incidents of her nearly flooding the house as well as harming herself by trying to use bleach as face wash. She needs care that I can not provide but the LA and care home seem to be happy for us both to continue to suffer.
Advise greatly needed!! Thanks in advance
I made the decision that after caring for mum in my home for 2 years - and previous in hers for 5 years that mum needs to be in a care home.
Since making the decision mum went into much needed respite for a week at a care home that we both liked. It’s the only one in our area that I would consider for mum.
After respite I made decision that mum needed full time care and we set about getting her into the care home where she had respite.
I have been through assessment with the council etc and they have agreed to pay her fees to £500 and that have said I will need to pay a top up.
They contacted where mum had had respite and they said we needed to pay £100 a week on top. After mush discussion with my OH we agreed that we could pay the top up and we thought we are all systems go. The care homes have now said - after 1 week - that they now want £300 per week! I am devastated as we can not afford this. Can they just change their minds!!
I asked for mum to have respite there for another week as I am literally on the floor due to the stress of working full time and caring for mum on evening and weekends. I am suffering with anxiety, depression and have often felt suicidal. I have no life - I am existing.
The care homes have now said that they won’t accept Mum for respite unless we pay full private fees! How can this be fair when we paid top up for respite 4 weeks ago!?!?
My question is can they go back on what was agreed - as in the £100 per week? I am at a loss. I’m desperate to get mum into full time care before she has an accident - I can’t watch her 24 hours but a day and when she is left by herself we have had some really bad incidents of her nearly flooding the house as well as harming herself by trying to use bleach as face wash. She needs care that I can not provide but the LA and care home seem to be happy for us both to continue to suffer.
Advise greatly needed!! Thanks in advance