I became a proficient liar when my husband was ill @Dutchman.
If I had told him the truth it would have resulted in confusion , anxiety, fear of the unknown and possible defensive aggression which would not have helped either of us.
We too were always straight with each other but pre dementia it was an equal relationship. Once dementia reared it`s head I lied to protect both of us, to make life easier. It`s not a crime in my book, it was just trying to make the best of a sad situation.
I hope you will be able to get some relaxation on your few days away otherwise it will have been wasted. A bit of peace and freedom from responsibility may help just a little and I really hope you will feel the benefit.
It`s not what any of us would choose. We just try to make the best of what we have.
Thanks for your reply. Nearly going. Just about to have some breakfast and then a diversion and sloping off while my daughter keeps her mum busy. Lots of rain today and tomorrow and I don’t care. Just some time to myself .
You’re right that I should relax and enjoy. I’ll catch up when I’m back