I have an 81 year old husband who was diagnosed the Alzheimers about 3 years ago. He also has mobility issues and other health problems. He is the kindest, most gentle man, but the sadness is I am losing him and there is nothing I can do about it. I am 18 years his junior, which has never been a problem and I am able to care for him, but the loneliness of the illness is hard. I have been awarded 4 hours respite a week by my local authority, but finding a carer when you have so much else to deal with is so difficult. We still laugh together and after 32 years of marriage still love each other very much. Family and friends are very kind, but nobody really fully understands what each day brings.