i lost my Dad to dementia 5 years ago next month and I haven’t visited the forum for a while. Recently I’ve become aware that my next door neighbour is caring for his wife who has dementia.
My neighbour is quite a private person. I’ve made some tentative efforts to offer help but I sense he is reluctant to take the offers up. This may be because people feel it’s difficult for outsiders to understand (although I’ve mentioned I have some experience of this horrible disease and have a small insight into how hard it is), perhaps because they feel they might be imposing or maybe because they feel it’s their responsibility to deal with it alone.
I want to respect to boundaries but equally want to help if I can. Should I try again or leave it alone. Having experienced dementia in a family member you don’t want to involve others unless it’s on a warts and all basis. That’s fine with me but I don’t want to add to my neighbours stress.
My neighbour is quite a private person. I’ve made some tentative efforts to offer help but I sense he is reluctant to take the offers up. This may be because people feel it’s difficult for outsiders to understand (although I’ve mentioned I have some experience of this horrible disease and have a small insight into how hard it is), perhaps because they feel they might be imposing or maybe because they feel it’s their responsibility to deal with it alone.
I want to respect to boundaries but equally want to help if I can. Should I try again or leave it alone. Having experienced dementia in a family member you don’t want to involve others unless it’s on a warts and all basis. That’s fine with me but I don’t want to add to my neighbours stress.